Partner Assessment
Is My Partner Narcissistic?
This is not about diagnosing your partner. It is about naming what you are experiencing so you can make clear decisions. Focus on what you have observed, not what you hope or fear.
This is an editorial questionnaire for reflection, not a validated clinical screening instrument. Its questions and score bands have not been clinically validated. A score cannot diagnose you or another person, identify causes, rule out harm, or choose treatment. Seek qualified support for distress or safety concerns. Answers stay in this page only; analytics and shared links do not include answers or scores.
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After arguments, my partner turns the situation around so that I end up apologizing, even when I raised a valid concern.
My partner becomes angry, cold, or dismissive when I set a boundary.
I feel like I am walking on eggshells to avoid triggering a negative reaction.
My partner says things happened differently than I remember, making me question my own perception.
I find myself constantly explaining or justifying my feelings to my partner.
I have caught my partner exaggerating accomplishments or rewriting events to make themselves look better.
When I bring up something that hurt me, my partner dismisses it, minimizes it, or changes the subject.
My partner uses silence, withdrawal, or emotional coldness as a way to punish me.
My partner rarely asks how I am feeling, and when they do, it feels performative.
My partner was intensely charming in the beginning but has become emotionally distant or inconsistent over time.
Other people see my partner as charming and generous, but at home the experience is different.
My partner shows empathy to others in public but struggles to show it to me in private.
After conflict, my partner rarely takes genuine accountability or makes real changes.
My partner promises to change after arguments but reverts to the same behavior within days.
When something goes wrong, my partner finds a way to make it my fault.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Does this test prove my partner is a narcissist?
No. This test identifies patterns you have observed in your relationship. It cannot diagnose anyone. Only a licensed professional can assess personality disorders. This tool helps you name what you are experiencing so you can act on it.
What if my partner scores low but I still feel something is wrong?
Trust your experience. This test measures specific patterns, but it cannot capture everything. If you consistently feel unheard, dismissed, or confused in your relationship, that matters regardless of any score.
Can narcissistic patterns in a partner change?
Change varies by person and circumstances. This questionnaire cannot estimate the likelihood of change or predict your partner's behavior. Pay attention to sustained actions and your safety, and seek support for decisions that are difficult or risky.
Should I show my partner their results?
These are your observations, not a clinical assessment of your partner. You do not owe anyone a score or a confrontation. Only discuss the questionnaire if it feels safe and useful. If you fear retaliation, seek specialized support before deciding what to share.
Am I being too sensitive?
If you are asking this question, you have probably been told you are. Recognizing patterns is not being too sensitive. It is being honest with yourself about what is happening in your relationship.
What is the difference between a bad relationship and a narcissistic one?
A relationship may be harmful without either person having a personality disorder. Both ordinary conflict and controlling behavior need context, and responsibility for abuse belongs to the person using it. This questionnaire cannot distinguish relationship types or diagnose either partner. Focus on concrete behaviors, their impact, and safety.
