Chapter IThe boundary formula

  1. Behavior
  2. Boundary
  3. Consequence

Example:

  • "If you raise your voice, I will end the call and we can talk tomorrow."

Chapter IIScripts (copy/paste)

  • "I'm not available for disrespect."
  • "We can talk when it's calm."
  • "I won't argue about my reality."
  • "If you keep insulting me, I'm leaving."

Chapter IIIBiggest mistake

Explaining your boundary for 20 minutes. That turns a boundary into a debate invitation.

Chapter IVFollow-through

The consequence isn't to punish them. It's to protect you.

Calm boundary. Calm follow-through. That's power.

Valon Asani
About the Author

Valon Asani

Founder, BE THE ONE

Serial entrepreneur and founder of dua.com, the largest platform for the Albanian diaspora with 1.1M+ users. Founder of MIK Group and BE THE ONE.