How it forms
- intensity
- conflict
- withdrawal
- relief
- repeat
Brain starts chasing relief. Relief feels like love.
Signs you are bonded
- you miss them most after they hurt you
- calm feels boring
- you obsess over "getting back to the good version"
- you ignore red flags because the chemistry is strong
What breaks the bond
- time away (space)
- low contact or no contact (structure)
- routine (sleep, training, work)
- reality reminders (journaling, evidence)
- accountability (a friend, coach, therapist)
One powerful move
Write:
- "What they did"
- "How I felt"
- "What I excused"
Read it when you crave the reset.
Craving is not truth. Craving is conditioning.