Signals of healthy love
- you can be honest without punishment
- your "no" is respected
- conflict leads to repair, not revenge
- affection is steady, not used as leverage
- you feel more like yourself over time
The nervous system test
Ask your body:
- Do I feel safe?
- Do I feel respected?
- Do I feel clear?
If calm feels boring, your nervous system may be addicted to chaos. Not your fault. Still your responsibility to heal.
The standard
You don't need perfect. You need consistent respect.